Friday, May 16, 2008

Marriage Impact Seminar Part 2 - Roles and Responsibilities

Part of the quick trip weekend was spent on the next part of our marriage counseling.  We have done 2 out of 6 so far.  Woo hoo!  I'll just talk about the highlights. 

They related it to a dance - there is a leader and a follower.  They have different roles but one is not more difficult or better than the other, just different. 

We discussed how our culture doesn't go by the biblical roles of marriage and it's because our culture thinks that men and women are equal in every way.  We are obviously not equal in every way.  Roles are not arbitrary or cultural.  These are not positions that denote privilege or rank, but rather functions in the context of teamwork - functions that are inseparably tied to God's purpose for marriage.  Roles are part of God's perfect design.  This is based on the complementaryism view that men and women are equal in the sight of God yet we have equal and different roles.  

Many people have problems with Christianity for the sole reason that they believe it is demeaning to women because they are to submit to their husbands.  This idea has been taken out of context to think that men lord over their wives.  The concept of headship is far different from what most think it is.  He isn't free to do whatever he wants rather, he is the one who surrenders his freedoms to make sure his household is protected and cared for.  It is the position of greatest responsibility and heaviest workload.  He should be the one to initiate, to serve first, give first, seek forgiveness and pursue spiritual growth first, and to lay down his very life for the lives of his bride and his children (The First 90 Days of Marriage - Eric and Leslie Ludy).  And I also want to add that they mentioned that if he abuses his role as the headship he answers directly to God!  So just because he may be the head of the family does not mean he doesn't take nothing from nobody! 

We talked about lots of other areas and aspects of roles and responsibilities for men and women but I just wanted to highlight this one because I feel that it is the most misunderstood.  

P.S. Don't credit me with this, it's mostly, ok well all from the notes!  


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